What do you think would happen if you disconnected from ALL social media for one month?
That means, NO Facebook, NO Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, blogging and yep… NO Tinder or other dating apps! Just you, 100% in real life, for one month?
I’m not sure it would have a significant impact myself as I don’t have all of those apps, & I can barely figure out how to stalk my niece on Snapchat much less make a post (or…a snap?). However, I do think it would give most of us more of an opportunity to focus on self care and growth. Who the hell are you behind that phone? What do YOU like? What do YOU dream about? Do you even dream anymore? Or is it all pixels and notifications while you sleep too? When is the last time you asked yourself these questions?
We are so damn busy comparing ourselves to others & worrying about checking in that we often neglect to make time for self discovery or reflection. I’m going to be focusing on that and only that over the next month. I’m a little bit frightened at what I might find. It feels similar to knowing you’ll have to weigh in after a night at the Olive Garden, & you are already 100% sure of disappointment & can barely look down…the shame… the breadsticks. It’s hard to face.
Yes, I am 35 freakin years old & I feel like I should have some things pretty figured out by now, but I don’t. Everyone tells me how strong I am for always standing up for what I want, but truthfully…I’m not even sure what that is. Of course, I’ll always try to stand up for what is right, and for what I feel like I deserve, but like most of you.. I’m a hot mess & I have no idea what I actually want out of life, or a relationship, or my days left in this world. Too dramatic? Ok… I guess I have some idea.
1.) Tacos – I definitely want those.
2.) Friends- the ones that are there for me in the nitty gritty moments of life no matter how uncomfortable it gets.
3.) Music -I’ll always want more of music in all forms. Live on a stage, in the background of a Saturday market on a cloudy day, in the car competing with the rain on the roof…
4.)Love – I’m not talking about when Harry met sally; I’m talking about the knee deep, quivering kind of love. The love of a thousand poets, minus the alcohol and drug addiction. What can I say, I am not only a writer but a hopeless romantic, color me cliche…
5.) Fulfillment – from my work, from writing, from helping others. I do a good job at this but I can do better. I can do so much more.
If social media isn’t your thing, it might be something else you could use a detox from. Toxic relationships, a bad environment, over committing yourself to others, cheese…by the way have you tried halloumi? Sorry, off topic… I mean the list can go on and on. Join me in the month of February if you so dare, to look down into the reality of it all, and just let whatever that thing is go for a while.
P.S. I am so happy you are here.